Month three is a reset — not a replay of week two
Three-month check-in with your MDW (Singapore) is the scheduled conversation around 90 days after she started: confirm what is stable, coach what is not, and decide if the household path is still “keep and improve.” First-month review chats sit in First Month Performance Conversations. Weeks 1–4 settling sit in First-Month Settling-In With Your MDW (Singapore). This page owns the quarter check-in.
General guidance only. MOM: mom.gov.sg. SmartMaid.com.sg is a marketplace. Licensed EAs place helpers.
Neighbouring hubs:
- First-month performance conversations
- First-month settling-in
- Building trust while maintaining standards
- Clear communication
- Written house rules sheet
- When to loop the agency
- Renewal decision: keep, transfer, or end
- When co-employers disagree
- This article: three-month check-in
Step 1 — Book it like a real meeting
Pick a calm slot (not during dinner chaos). Both co-employers aligned first (When Co-Employers Disagree About the Helper (Singapore)). Tell her the purpose: review, not ambush.
Step 2 — Use a fair agenda
- Wins since month one (be specific)
- Two gaps max (with examples)
- Her questions / what she needs from you
- House-rules updates if any (Creating a Simple Written House Rules Sheet)
- Next 30-day focus (one theme)
Tone: trust and standards together (Building Trust While Maintaining Employer Standards, Supporting Mental Health Through Clear Communication).
Step 3 — Separate coaching from path decisions
- Coaching: duties, timing, communication
- Path: keep improving vs start replace/end thinking (Renewal Decision: Keep, Transfer, or End (Singapore))
Do not hide a replace decision inside a “casual chat.”
Step 4 — Write one page of outcomes
Date, agreed standards, her requests you accepted, follow-up date. Keep with employment notes.
Step 5 — Loop the licensed EA when needed
Call the EA (When to Loop the Agency Into Early Issues) if gaps are safety/welfare, repeated after clear coaching, or you need replacement advice.
MOM rules
Fair treatment and rest-day/welfare expectations still apply at month three. (no bonus figures on this page).
Checklist
- Meeting booked; co-employers aligned
- Fair agenda prepared (wins + ≤2 gaps)
- Helper heard
- Outcomes written
- EA looped only if criteria met
Scripts
To helper: At three months we like to check in: what is going well, two things to improve, and what you need from us. This is a conversation, not a surprise list.
To EA: We completed a three-month check-in. Issues remaining: [list]. Please advise coaching vs replacement options under MOM practice.
Bottom line
Run a calm 90-day check-in to lock standards for the next quarter — or start an honest path decision. Browse on SmartMaid; place through a licensed EA under MOM rules.
