Big family events need a checklist — not a last-minute “can I go?”
Employer checklist before helper attends a wedding or family event (Singapore) is the pack for weddings, funerals, baptisms, or similar: approve hours, plan cover, set return time, and decide overnight stays. Generic extra days off sit in #163. Ongoing community groups sit in #149. Family visiting Singapore sits in #143. This page owns one-off wedding / family event attendance.
General guidance only. Soft MOM: mom.gov.sg. SmartMaid.com.sg is a marketplace. Licensed EAs place helpers. Platform ≠ agency. No invented $ (no made-up gift or transport figures).
Neighbouring hubs:
- Extra time off beyond weekly rest day (unique #163)
- Community or church group (unique #149)
- Family short-stay visits (unique #143)
- Rest days: rules and fair arrangements (unique #86)
- Public transport briefing (unique #144)
- When co-employers disagree (unique #120)
- Written house rules sheet (unique #32)
- Relief helper for a few days (unique #145)
- This article: wedding / family event checklist
Step 1 — Get the event card in writing
Date, venue, start/end, whether overnight, who is hosting. Soft rest-day fairness: #86.
Step 2 — Approve via the extra-time-off path
Use #163 for paid/unpaid/swap decisions — no invented $. Co-employers align (#120). Write the yes (#32).
Step 3 — Cover the house
Who handles kids / meals / elder care. If the gap is long, consider relief (#145).
Step 4 — Transport and return window
Brief the route (#144). Agree latest return time. Overnight away needs an explicit yes (not the same as guests at *your* home — #143).
Step 5 — Soft MOM
Reasonable time for major family events supports welfare. Soft framing on mom.gov.sg. Platform ≠ agency.
Soft MOM
Confirm fair treatment expectations on mom.gov.sg. Soft only. No invented $.
Checklist
- Event details written
- Time off decided via #163 path
- House cover planned (#145 if needed)
- Transport + return / overnight clear (#144)
- Co-employers aligned (#120)
- No invented $; platform ≠ agency; soft MOM
Scripts
To helper: Send the invitation details. We will confirm cover and your return time in writing. Gift money is your choice — we will not invent an amount for you.
To co-employer: Wedding days are a cover decision — we answer before she buys the dress.
Bottom line
Approve wedding or family events with written hours, house cover, and a clear return window — using the extra-time-off path without inventing gift figures. Browse on SmartMaid; place through a licensed EA under soft MOM rules.
